How do we deal with the loss of a loved one?
How do we deal with the loss of a loved one?
One of the hardest feelings that pass on the human anguish and grief over the loss of a loved one, especially if that person soon and loved and came sudden death, and man can only sympathize with the mother who loses a son young twenty years old, or a wife who loses her husband and remain with her children single sad, and many other examples. In the first moment the shock be severe The man does not believe what happened, and the shock of these minutes or hours period lasts and sometimes days, then comes the role of grief and anguish and sorrow, human and feel depressed and narrow in the chest, and be passionate about any activity or fun, and feel that life tasteless as long as the end of the death, and this appears on his food and drank and his clothing, and there are those who take certain rituals , such as: Do not watch TV, black dress dark, and not to the exchange of visits with the people, and not to smile or laugh, this is common in the home atmosphere is comfortable, It does not go out unless he intended to visit the bereaved cemetery, and there may be an exaggeration in that go beyond what is reasonable in the logic and Shara, and become a tough family life, nor dare any of its members to break the barriers and the actions taken, and in many cases, does not specify a time for the end of this atmosphere . (For more information: get rid of the stress ten steps )
- It is known that the second phase of heartbreak mourning
a grief for the dead lasts from a few weeks to a few months at most and
rarely up to one year, and even come out rights must be conducted by a
review of its relationship to the deceased and his vision for the future
and having come out of this negotiation up to the stage coping
with death and loss and grief, but if the family remained constant
action, this may delay the family members have access to the coping
stage and some stops in grief and despair for long periods. (For more information: the reasons for reluctance to visit the psychiatrist )
- Under false rituals, it is noticeable that there are avoided to talk
about the late straightforward manner, and may not be named, and there
are those who do not look at the pictures and belongings, and sometimes
there is exaggeration opposite, so attach an image in all the corners of
the house and become the sole and permanent family and her guests talk,
all this leads to a delay in the exit of the atmosphere of grief and
distress. It is not understood how the late benefit from the failure of the members of his family to pursue their daily lives
, or listening to the news bulletin or watch a TV program and read the
newspapers, and how to benefit from they all wore dark or black clothes,
and whether these procedures return them to any benefits, these
measures may be reasonable in the first period, but its continued does
not lead to any benefits , but it blocks access to the case of coping,
and may be for family friends and associates role in driving change, so
that any of the members of the family if he tried to decipher mourning will feel guilt and remorse like the only one who forgot about the late and not sad at parting. (For more: When making your mental problem )
- Many of the rituals we practice we do not know its origin. For
example: forty, did not come in Islam that benefit the mourning for
forty days, but that in ancient history known to the pharaohs they spend
forty days in the embalmed corpse before burial, so grief remains List
and funeral are open until the burial, people quote this number and set
up the ritual, and spend the money without justification, and other
behaviors banquet held in the days of mourning, the basic principle is
where the relatives and neighbors of the deceased preparing food for the
people of the deceased, because they would be unable to prepare food
themselves in the midst of sorrows has abstain from eating, the
involvement of relatives and neighbors to them is to motivate them to
eat, but it has turned into an official banquet in which the people of
the deceased venerate their guests as if they were at a wedding or a
suitable ceremony happy and sometimes expanding circle of this banquet
and called the distal the proximal and be in large quantities destroys
most of them, as are disabled invitees for their actions and interests
to participate in the banquet senseless, and if the intention of charity
from the spirit of the deceased there is nothing wrong to pay the value
of the banquet or to provide food for the poor and the needy and
charities and it becomes attended the funeral. (For more information: Important tips for psychological health is good )
- To facilitate human passage through the stages of mourning are bound to facilitate the grief and mourning is given the green light, it also advised to lose someone dear to return to normal life as soon as possible and modify the system daily in line with the new situation, and become heartbreak mourning satisfactory if long or was severe or turned into symptoms , despite the similarity of heartbreak mourning with depression but it is not supposed to lead to the suspension of the human capacity for work and performance , as the case may be depressed, (for more: to overcome the depression )
- The use of tranquilizers and alcohol may lead to delay traffic in the
stages of grief mourning, and safely as possible to sympathize with the
family in our society helps clearly on the support of its members and
get them to safety, brothers and sisters, sons even relatives and
neighbors that they can contribute positively to the human out of the
grief to cope, and it is worth noting that a lot of people advised
passes a sigh of mourning forgotten and as if we ask him to forget his
father or his brother and the fact that forgetfulness is not true Anyone who has some of his family members and still reminds them of every detail , but without suffering and this is the adaptation and acclimatization with life. (For more information: the risks of drinking alcohol and addiction )
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